Wow, what for a way to kick off this blog.
But hey, it’s true. At the time of writing, I am facing a semi-huge dilemma of trying to talk sense into my cousin who is living with me in my mini Apartelle of sorts here at the Germansion.
I took him under the wing under the premise that he would develop and kickstart his independent life with my guidance and support. But it could not have gone more south than it’s currently heading.
Sure, I am not the best example for the case at hand, but I can’t help but feel the urge to butt into his current lifestyle and the way he’s developing – or the lack thereof.
See, he’s earning a decent amount of money, manages to go to school and all… But he’s quite the lover boy if you wish. Not that there’s anything particularly wrong with it, I wouldn’t mind his sidelines at all would I have not stumbled upon information that he gives zero shit about his family. And I tell you, this is not the first incident he crossed me. Getting a motorcycle without even talking to me about it, asking for financial guidance yada yada yada, has made me decide to get back the phone I have had him use so graciously. He’s reached a point where he’s spoiled and naga-salig… and it’s only gotten worse.
Back in the day when he started out, he was quite adamant and certain that he will excel and make it big one day. He used his family and his girlfriend (that he brought over from Tagum) as inspiration. He wanted to help them, he says… but now, he has all but abandoned not just supporting his family but his (now ex)-girlfriend. Clearly, I should start stepping at some point, right?
I mean, I understand people falling apart… I have just enough of those experiences in my past… But it just doesn’t feel right that he’s leaving the girl he asked to take leap of faith with him and come over to Davao with him – just to be replaced by someone slightly more accomplished. According to him, he’d prefer someone already accomplished. Like the fuck you do, little man. There’s no harm in aspiring for something bigger or better… but it’s always important to consider the people in our lives and the decisions that we’re making. And in my eyes, he is so far away from being his own accomplished self to demand a person like that.
“Why are you not talking to him about it”? Well, that’s exactly something that I long to do. But I don’t quite know how to tackle it. It might escalate to the point where I have to kick him out if his behavior doesn’t change. God it feels like I’m a parent (which I actually am, but my daughter is still 7 so I don’t have to worry about the complexities of life with her yet)
Perhaps after this writing, I’ll have enough substantial thoughts on the matter at hand to confront him properly.
I do hope we get to a compromise (or better, he comes to his senses) that the shit that he’s doing is just wrong. And that no matter how much money you start earning, family should come first and then next in line should be the people that have been there for you as you progressed in life — and not some fancy complete package kuno.